Wow...so much has happened in the last few weeks. I am officially a single lady, Benefit show is over, I've graduated, and now I'm trying to work out how to spend the rest of my life. I know I'm really just trying to get a job that will start me on the path to a career, but it sounds more epic the other way. Regardless, being out of school but still working a part time job makes me reluctant to start getting serious about work right away. I'll take a few more weeks of relaxation so that I can have the energy to conquer the world.
My roommate brought up an interesting topic via my ex. Unconditional Love. Is it real? Does it exist in relationships between men and women? I don't believe it does to be honest. I see unconditional love as only being something you have for your immediate family members, and even then if you are not fulfilling your role as a decent parent/child/sibling then that love will not be as strong. I believe that you can love someone with all your heart for who they are, but if circumstances make it so, you can fall out of love while still loving them as people. If the person you're with is not inspiring you to be more than you are, if your personalities are essentially incompatible because your core values are so different, if you are in different stages of your life and one person feels caged in by guilt and restrictions, why is it fair to impose the idea of unconditional love on them? It's not. You should not force someone to be with you when doing so only makes them comfortable, but not happy. They may love you still for all you have had, but when you wake up and realize that you have hardly anything in common, it's time to move on.
I don't want to be faulted for that. I want to be as happy and successful as I can be, and I don't think that's wrong. So I unconditionally love the memory of what I had, but I deserve more, and so does my ex. I'm learning that a little more every day now.
~Keiko
